Posted on May 15, 2008 by John Steele
Some Clients are really surprised at how long things can take in family law cases. They ask, “Why is that?” Well, first, government is not well set up to resolve personal, intensely sensitive problems involving relationships, love, anger, parenting, etc. Second, people tend to get emotionally involved, and while money cannot buy you a judgment, it can certainly stretch things out. As any good attorney knows, oftentimes its the client with the deeper threshold for financial pain that wins out. And third, most family law attorneys don’t want the matter to end quickly. As the legal sherpas of the process, we can manipulate clients, and those on the other side, to prolong the matter. And we all know why right? As people who have read my site know, I like to charge flat fees (even though I cannot always do so), and when I am able to, it changes the entire client relationship. In Divorce cases, parties usually wind down once they get the anger/hurt out of their system. And as I tell many a client, love is the biggest reason divorces are wrapped up. Love for the new boyfriend/girlfriend that is. I can almost always tell when a client has a new serious relationship. “John, i’ve been thinking, and maybe its just better to try to work things out and get this over with”. At which point I know that the new relationship has been bearing down on my client. No matter what women say, they do not like to date married men, even those going through divorce. There is that nagging feeling of “what if he goes back” in the back of one’s mind I guess. Posted on May 15, 2008 by John Steele
Some Clients are really surprised at how long things can take in family law cases. They ask, "Why is that?" Well, first, government is not well set up to resolve personal, intensely sensitive problems involving relationships, love, anger, parenting, etc. Second, people tend to get emotionally involved, and while money cannot buy you a judgment, it can certainly stretch things out. As any good attorney knows, oftentimes its the client with the deeper threshold for financial pain that wins out. And third, most family law attorneys don’t want the matter to end quickly. As the legal sherpas of the process, we can manipulate clients, and those on the other side, to prolong the matter. And we all know why right? As people who have read my site know, I like to charge flat fees (even though I cannot always do so), and when I am able to, it changes the entire client relationship. In Divorce cases, parties usually wind down once they get the anger/hurt out of their system. And as I tell many a client, love is the biggest reason divorces are wrapped up. Love for the new boyfriend/girlfriend that is. I can almost always tell when a client has a new serious relationship. “John, i’ve been thinking, and maybe its just better to try to work things out and get this over with”. At which point I know that the new relationship has been bearing down on my client. No matter what women say, they do not like to date married men, even those going through divorce. There is that nagging feeling of “what if he goes back” in the back of one’s mind I guess.
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