Posted on September 10, 2008 by John Steele
The courts are very concerned about the harmful effects divorce have upon children. Judges strongly want to get child issues figured out, at least on a temporary basis, for stability. Quite simply, kids can get screwed up so easily due to the incredible selfishness of their parents.
It wouldn’t be so bad if parents remembered that kids are not possessions to be ‘won’. There are two reoccuring problems relating to divorce and children that really annoy me. First, many parents ignore how their nasty fights with each other affect their children. So fighting over children causes those children to take sides in the divorce, develop feelings of anger towards their parents, feel uncertain about their self worth, and so on. Second, parents use children to hurt the other parent. Custodial parents tend to be more at fault in this regard. Withholding parenting time, alienating the children, and generally blocking the other parent from continuing the critical parental bonding. The extreme of such behavior is when one parent attempts to prevent the other parent from seeing the child(ren) unsupervised, essentially asking the court to order a parent (usually the father) to not be allowed alone with their own children! I will continue with this thought in a post next week. Posted on September 10, 2008 by John Steele
The courts are very concerned about the harmful effects divorce have upon children. Judges strongly want to get child issues figured out, at least on a temporary basis, for stability. Quite simply, kids can get screwed up so easily due to the incredible selfishness of their parents.
It wouldn’t be so bad if parents remembered that kids are not possessions to be ‘won’. There are two reoccuring problems relating to divorce and children that really annoy me. First, many parents ignore how their nasty fights with each other affect their children. So fighting over children causes those children to take sides in the divorce, develop feelings of anger towards their parents, feel uncertain about their self worth, and so on. Second, parents use children to hurt the other parent. Custodial parents tend to be more at fault in this regard. Withholding parenting time, alienating the children, and generally blocking the other parent from continuing the critical parental bonding. The extreme of such behavior is when one parent attempts to prevent the other parent from seeing the child(ren) unsupervised, essentially asking the court to order a parent (usually the father) to not be allowed alone with their own children! I will continue with this thought in a post next week.
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