Posted on February 5, 2010 by John Steele
Question I received this morning:
27 yrs ago when my boyfriend was 26 he fondled his step daughter. This went on for aprox 5-6 months and he put a end to it. He remained her stepfather until four years ago when his wife died. She was aware of the abuse. He has felt great remorse and guilt over the years and has done everything possible to make it up to her. He has paid her bills, worked on her home and cars, bought her cars, paid for her education, given her a place to live, paid for her vacations ect. Five months ago he said no more and closed the wallet.
She is 40 yrs old, has not held a job for over a year, lives on welfare, and has retail theft convictions. He received a letter yesterday from her attorney that she has suffered great emotional trauma due to his abuse and is seeking a settlement. She has been extorting money out of him for the last 27 yrs. She has lived with him & her mother several times since she was 20. How long does he have to pay for this mistake? Should she not have filed charges years ago and stayed away from him? She would drop her son off at his house to ride go-carts, she would go to his house to cut his hair, borrow his car, hang out with her step-brothers. She threatened him when he shut off the cash flow that “things were going to happen” and if she cant have anything then he cant have anything & then ends the conversation wanting to know if she is still on his life insurance policy.
My Answer:
First, she will have to prove the abuse, which will be hard.
Of course, your boyfriend is a pedophile and on a personal level, I wouldn’t mind if she could prove it. The fact you state he is really sorry, as if paying bills for someone makes up for molesting them is disgusting. Its likely that the step-daughter is so screwed up because of what he did.
Either way, I hope you don’t have young children around him.
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What is wrong with a woman that would rationalize conduct by her boyfriend like that? One of the great things about having started my own firm a while back is that I get to say to people like this, “Get the hell out of my office”.
I don’t represent scumbags. Everyone is entitled to an attorney. But it doesn’t have to be me. Besides there are plenty of jaded, burnt out family lawyers who will represent anyone who can come up with a retainer fee. I think those lawyers are as bad as their clients. I see them all the time, and they are the same lawyers who are always complaining about their work. Gee, might there be a connection? Generally, I like my clients, and my clients like me.
Time for me to get off my high horse and go do some work.
Posted on February 5, 2010 by John Steele
Question I received this morning:
27 yrs ago when my boyfriend was 26 he fondled his step daughter. This went on for aprox 5-6 months and he put a end to it. He remained her stepfather until four years ago when his wife died. She was aware of the abuse. He has felt great remorse and guilt over the years and has done everything possible to make it up to her. He has paid her bills, worked on her home and cars, bought her cars, paid for her education, given her a place to live, paid for her vacations ect. Five months ago he said no more and closed the wallet.
She is 40 yrs old, has not held a job for over a year, lives on welfare, and has retail theft convictions. He received a letter yesterday from her attorney that she has suffered great emotional trauma due to his abuse and is seeking a settlement. She has been extorting money out of him for the last 27 yrs. She has lived with him & her mother several times since she was 20. How long does he have to pay for this mistake? Should she not have filed charges years ago and stayed away from him? She would drop her son off at his house to ride go-carts, she would go to his house to cut his hair, borrow his car, hang out with her step-brothers. She threatened him when he shut off the cash flow that “things were going to happen” and if she cant have anything then he cant have anything & then ends the conversation wanting to know if she is still on his life insurance policy.
My Answer:
First, she will have to prove the abuse, which will be hard.
Of course, your boyfriend is a pedophile and on a personal level, I wouldn’t mind if she could prove it. The fact you state he is really sorry, as if paying bills for someone makes up for molesting them is disgusting. Its likely that the step-daughter is so screwed up because of what he did.
Either way, I hope you don’t have young children around him.
_________
What is wrong with a woman that would rationalize conduct by her boyfriend like that? One of the great things about having started my own firm a while back is that I get to say to people like this, “Get the hell out of my office”.
I don’t represent scumbags. Everyone is entitled to an attorney. But it doesn’t have to be me. Besides there are plenty of jaded, burnt out family lawyers who will represent anyone who can come up with a retainer fee. I think those lawyers are as bad as their clients. I see them all the time, and they are the same lawyers who are always complaining about their work. Gee, might there be a connection? Generally, I like my clients, and my clients like me.
Time for me to get off my high horse and go do some work.
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